The way of cohesiveness: A reflection on Relationship and Self

 Relationships

 

What do you know of being in a relationship, and what is your understanding of the word itself?

 Do you have an understanding of the relationship with yourself before involving yourself with another?

How many of us understand what our own feelings are versus the lust or greed for something?

 We live in a right now society that gives no need for understanding, but more or less we are in a reactive time to where we move like cattle or sheep in a direction of what or where we are moved to.

In other words, our learning and study time now is projected upon us by the media or the times of what is being driven to project profit or success.

So how can we understand how we feel as individuals when we don’t truly know what we want versus what we are always attempting to get from what’s being shown to us as being the next biggest and greatest thing to have, whether it be a car, food, person, or body type that you're attempting to have.

If we look at many of us want the best of what is being shown to us, or we want to stop the pain in our bodies from a product that might help us to relieve whatever element we might have.

 If we are full, then maybe we should not have another bite of something that may make us feel sick or uneasy, or if our eyelashes are not as long as someone else’s, maybe we should just accept what we have on ourselves and enjoy what it is what we are like right now in the mirror.

Acceptance of self is the beginning of understanding what a relationship is about, from there an understanding of what one might want to obtain appears to be in clear site

Listening to what you truly want by yourself alone may be confusing in the beginning, and like with anything, it takes time to really hear yourself against all of what’s being projected upon you of what is needed for you to be acted upon and look to be a part of what is considered to be normal.

What is normal is the gnawing feeling of uneasiness that comes from not feeling complete in oneself.

We search for completeness in an economic structure from our schooling to get into a field that, in hopes of expanding financial stability, to find the location where we want to live, and to find a significant other to be married to or to just be with share the spoils of success from obtaining what you have worked so hard in life to obtain.

In many situations, though, even when accomplishing these (will call them goals), there is still an uneasiness of incompleteness, meaning that if by any chance you were moving in accordance of what was instilled in you by much of the normalcy of what we all have been shown on what is supposed to be a staple of success.

Maybe just maybe we missed a step, and that step was first to find out who you are, and do you feel comfortable enough to be that person to take the next steps in life that will help you succeed in obtaining other steps, and really feel the perks of accumulation of achievements in life without that feeling of something missing.

Have you ever said that you were meant to do more than what you are doing right now?  Your best future is what you put forth now to make that time (future) your best time, but you have to understand who you are to know what you want to start working for a better tomorrow.

Like preparation for a school subject, you must study first before taking the test; otherwise, more times than not, the end result is to fail or barely pass the subject at hand due to a lack of study. The key is to understand what you are attempting to succeed in.

I’ve often looked at how people get all dressed up to cover up with nice clothes and shoes great smelling fragrances and more to look the best of which they feel they can be to go out and meet another person that will be doing the same thing and that’s to look the part of what they consider to be successful from the eye of what a clique group or social standard of acceptances, Just to get involved with a person looking the part of acceptance of society not knowing that person may be in the position of not knowing of who they are but moving in the vast stream of societies acceptance flow attracted towards what is acceptable once obtained in a few months or year is not what was thought to be at that time the right person as was desired after finding out who that person was after time.

In any aspect of life, as we know of if we take time to understand something fully, it is going to take just that, time.